A cousin of mine recently decided to ask for a raise. He has worked for the company for two, three years, has worked very hard and was overdue for a raise, but he was doubting himself and every day while driving to work he would obsess about the conversation he would have with his boss. He would go over in his head all the things he's done for his company and the successful projects he has completed for his company.
His feelings would change from confident to self doubt as he listen's to the chatter going on in his mind.Sometimes he would hear the chatter arguing his self worth and ineptitude, he felt he didn't deserve a raise he was lucky to even have a job in this recession, as an effect he would feel hopeless. Then the chatter would switch to criticizing his boss saying how ungrateful his boss was and how he should demand the raise at once!! After weeks of struggling with this chatter he would then start to have difficulty sleeping and was struggling to keep productive at work, so he then decides to finally talk to the boss and tell him he deserves his raise and the boss starts telling him how much he appreciates the hard work and the contributions he gives to his company, and tells him he is getting a larger raise than the one he asked for. It turns out all that chatter and anxiety he was experiencing was just an illusion, they were all lies. Does this sound like something that has happened to you? One moment you are obsessed with your future filled with anxiety and the next you are thinking about your unhappy past, most people don't have any control over the worry your mind wrongfully generates.This inner struggle that your mind generates causes you unbearable stress not the experiences themselves.
His feelings would change from confident to self doubt as he listen's to the chatter going on in his mind.Sometimes he would hear the chatter arguing his self worth and ineptitude, he felt he didn't deserve a raise he was lucky to even have a job in this recession, as an effect he would feel hopeless. Then the chatter would switch to criticizing his boss saying how ungrateful his boss was and how he should demand the raise at once!! After weeks of struggling with this chatter he would then start to have difficulty sleeping and was struggling to keep productive at work, so he then decides to finally talk to the boss and tell him he deserves his raise and the boss starts telling him how much he appreciates the hard work and the contributions he gives to his company, and tells him he is getting a larger raise than the one he asked for. It turns out all that chatter and anxiety he was experiencing was just an illusion, they were all lies. Does this sound like something that has happened to you? One moment you are obsessed with your future filled with anxiety and the next you are thinking about your unhappy past, most people don't have any control over the worry your mind wrongfully generates.This inner struggle that your mind generates causes you unbearable stress not the experiences themselves.
by Andres Garcia
About the Author:
Andres Garcia has been writing articles for two years now. his latest interest is in house cleaning products such as a bare floor vacuum.
